Leadership with heart, mind, and soul

Stay Put

Added on by Sam Davidson.

Each morning when I wake up now, I think, "Thank God my wife didn't go into labor last night."

It's not the actual act of labor I'm worried about. I'm good in crisis situations, and I've seen enough babies being born in our childbirth class (on video) to not be as alarmed as I might be had I seen it all happen cold turkey. Rather, I'm thankful that our daughter is staying put, growing, and getting fat.

Were she to come eight weeks early, we'd be fine. She'd survive. But, it would be better for her to stay where she is a bit longer. She'll be healthier and less at risk medically. And, her room isn't quite ready yet.

It's so hard to stay put. In a world where you can be in another country by nightfall and have a new job by Friday, staying where you are seems so boring. Couple our desire for movement with the inane assumption that everyone's grass is greener and we're itching to have any life but ours.

And so we jump. We run away. We leave. We move on. We try something (or someone) new.

And then we repeat the process. Then we look around and after a few years we have nothing more than an expertise in transitions. We have great stories and scars to go with them, but our resume - and quite possibly many relationships - sucks.

I've had interns who have a list of clubs and groups and projects they've completed. But they've never done anything longer than six months. I meet with people regularly who want to change jobs, but they've been at their current one less than a year.

What I'm starting to challenge people on is this:

What could you do or learn if you stayed put?

If you're creative enough, disciplined enough, and determined enough, you'll take the next six months (or even eight weeks) and develop a skill or a relationship or a project that infuses your current work with excitement that will make your current lamenting seem like misguided wishing.